By Rachel Flowers

Dear Rachel,

I went shopping with my boyfriend and I saw these boots I really wanted. Quick to say I was going to buy them, but my boyfriend started to say how I shouldn’t buy them because they were too expensive, and I will only wear them once. I really wanted these boots, but was definitely not in the mood to argue with him. So while he was shopping for himself I quickly grabbed the boots and proceeded to check out. This is definitely hanging on my conscience. What should I do?

Dear Reader,

I believe that honesty is the best policy when it comes to relationships. Go tell him that you bought the boots because they meant a lot to you. In the end he will find out that you bought them and will start an argument. That being said you should show him that you value his opinion and wear the boots a few times. If you really liked the boots and were going to buy them for yourself then I believe you should have been able to buy the boots if that was what you really wanted, but the way you handled it was not the best way. You should have told your boyfriend that you really liked them and were going to buy them for yourself versus waiting for him to leave to buy them. Promise him that you will wear them more than once. When situations like this arise it may seem like your partner is being a jerk but there may be more to it than that. They may be trying to make you aware that you may buy shoes and only wear them once, but they don’t want to just come out and say it bluntly to avoid hurting your feelings. Next time take a second and think, “Is he right? Am I buying these on impulse?” If not, express your opinion to them and buy the shoes if it makes you happy.