By: Ariel Worthing
It’s no secret that men are often told they have to be strong: don’t show emotions, don’t cry, man up. This age-old stigma is so ingrained in our society that we rarely stop to consider the real impact of hiding emotions—or what it can do to a person over time.
What happens when being “strong” also means hiding what you’re truly thinking and feeling? When you believe you can’t express your emotions, the consequences can quietly build up, often leading to serious or even deadly outcomes.
Over the years, we’ve seen men’s mental health receive more attention and become more accepted as a society. However, the issue remains and men deserve to know that asking for help isn’t weakness; it’s strength, a strength that can lead to a better, happier life.
In an April 9, 2026, article in the New York Times titled, “6 Things Psychologists Wish Men Knew About Mental Health,” Matt Englar-Carlson, a professor of counseling at California State University, states, “we frame seeking help as a failure”. The article also goes on to say that men are more likely to misuse drugs and alcohol, as well as noting that men have a higher suicide rate than women.
During my own mental health journey, I’ve learned that taking care of our mind and bodies is essential to taking care of the rest of our lives. Whether it’s performance at work, going to school, taking care of our families, and everything in between, everything is just better when you’re taking care of yourself first and that includes our minds. It doesn’t matter what gender we are, if someone wants to cry, just talk or needs more serious help, no one should make anyone feel bad for speaking up.
The reality is seeking help is not weak, it’s strong. So how do we, as a society, continue to change the stigma around men’s mental health? Start by reminding the men in your life that it’s okay to not be okay. Let them know you’re always there to lend an ear or piece of advice without judgment. The more men who feel safe enough to speak out about their own mental health journey, the more it paves a path for others to speak up as well.
Remember it is okay, to not be okay, and asking for help IS strong.
The following are some helpful resources for men looking to reach out:
Man Therapy – NAMI Maine – Mental Health Resources & Support
Basic Needs & Counseling Support – Southern Maine Community College
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